The Truth About Aries Women

APRIL 16 <3

The internet makes Aries seem like this out of control child that cant sit still or acts all the time impulsive. So let me simply put out exactly what an Aries women exactly is. all words and pictures are my opinion and experience. I am an Aries.

IN GENERAL

We Aries are LOYAL TO A FAULT, we SEE THE GOOD IN ALL

• We will stay loyal until you show you don't give a f**k
• When things seem hopeless or a cause is lost you can count on the Aries woman to look on the bright side and bring light to the darkness.

IN LIFE

(Although the traits are diffused in an Aries woman, We  will still exhibit the warmheartedness and energy of the Aries sign.) 

Us Aries female can't stand lukewarm or spiritless people around us. We want upbeat positive people who want more in life.. hopefully you can agree about this, but, I dislike people who are afraid to touch life or want to point out all the bad in the good and swim in the bad traits. Its just a dreadful pain.  Once irritated we will not shy away from saying how we feel about it. 

ARIES are  brilliant and full of life, a joy to hang out with.

IN FAMILY LIFE/ RELATIONSHIPS

We are not this tyrant chaotic beings that run a war once we are tied down.

 Aries woman is seldom satisfied with just being a wife and mother, we can be submissive but we are only that to the ones that we respect, the ones that we can say have a greater strength that we cant over-power. I Llloveee being a good (woman)wife and mom, it satisfy my craving of being needed. Often, we will be or end up being the woman who has a husband, children and a great job, not only that, will manage all of it with success! You CAN NOT tear an Aries's family apart, it will be impossible.

As a Aries woman I can say with confidence that we find happiness in a long term relationship. We enjoy sharing everything with a lover and we are highly affectionate, even sentimental. I will be your staunchest ally, fight side by side with you, believe in you, encourage you. We are a marvelous companion for a man on the way up or fighting to stay at the top because we'll give him all the strength and determination we have.That is our ambition trait.

LIFE-RELATIONSHIP ADVICE

 All Aries women need one piece of advice, and it would be to take a step back and relax a little. I don't care what walk of life you come from, if you are an Aries you have a "rushing" trait in you. This means that you are always rushing from one thing to the next or quickly trying to commit and thinking before acting without ever really taking any time out to enjoy life, enjoy the moment. We  must take more time to relax (Aries). That is why we need a patient partner(friend) to help us coach us to see life with a glass a wine (nicely sipped). Or to not keep taking every challenge in front of us. If we dont heed we will end up always disappointed and never happy with ourselves.  Water signs have a patient trait and a calm mature fire sign, (EXCEPT YOU PISCES. I HAVE NOTHING GOOD TO SAY ABOUT THEM. PISCES DON'T EVER COMPARE YOURSELF WITH ARIES. EVERRRR. )

 yeah i do love enjoying the silence. and my alone time.

ill do my part to show him how good i am but you know it would be nice.

yeah im very easy to read even my voice changes up. 

If I unintentionally hurt you or i caused us to lose trust . Trust and believe I would take it all back to re frame from hurting you.

ill use the material things to save your life. 

YEAH I DO. I think thats why some Aries are all big talk about their strength because once let down we crumble. our heart and our head are our most sensitive sites. we just hate being viewed as weak, but im okay with showing it slightly. Its part of being a submissive woman.

Enough said. So so true.

Do you appreciate your life or the little things

 

Everybody loves cuddles from the biggest gangster to the smallest child. 
We get so much love when we are children. 
Years pass, the love changes, it's not unconditional from everyone any more. 
Conditions come with the amount of love and support. 
You make friends, they will grow to love you, but not give you as much affection as when you were a child. 
You meet someone who wants to be with you, close to you, be your friend, become your lover. 
Time for hugs, comfort and beautiful moments. 
You are loved again, not that your family or friends ever fell out of love with you. 
It's just different now, you are supposed to be starting your own family. 
Somebody to share food with... Even though you hate sharing food because you are hungry lol. 
Another soul to exchange stories with, company that can't be rival by any other. 
Seek Out love, even though you have been hurt, you know that you don't want to be single. 
We all want and need affection, not merely sexual encounters. 
Sex is cool but everything else that should come with it, makes up the love of life itself. 
The late nights curled up together... Complaining that your partner is freezing but they only went to the toilet and you were happy, that they put their cold feet on your legs, because you are excited to be with someone special. 
You are back in each other's arms. 
The embrace comes with a reassuring kiss. 
Everything will be alright now. 
Pulling you closer, holding you tighter, hoping to never let go. 
You don't want them to go, you can't wait for the day to end so you can start cuddling again.

Gaining myself back after my ex

You always asked and i never felt, I gave you good enough reasons of why it happened. So because you wanted to know I can finally sum up why i was with my ex husband, without exploiting too much information:
I put the blame on us being young.
I was young and i loved to love,  and when you love to love its impossible to separate the act of loving, from the person that you're actually suppose to love. 

I  think that is why me and him was too much in love with the idea of love, to actually know what our wants was.  I had an (albeit naive) perspective that when you meet the right person, you fall in love, and that’s that.

I never doubted him for a minute when he showed his aggressive affection; this was what was supposed to happen. I watch the movies after all the yelling and fighting the couples came back together, so I trusted it, the process of companionship, and I let myself settle into having someone.

 I remember sitting in a park alone, crying, before marrying him. I knew, deep down, that there was nothing solid about our life together, but I didn’t know what else to do. I was gonna grow in this decision and do my damn best. He was the father of my kids and it felt like the right thing to do. So weeks pass and we quickly became claustrophobic and aggressive with each other, he began to rebel against me and our relationship. Within a matter of months, things started to fall apart.

He became angry, and lied a lot of true colors started to show. I didn’t know how to process this sudden shift and blamed myself. My life went from my own, to ours, to trying to salvage what was left in any respect. It was a strange time, and although I don’t remember much of the details, I do remember it being extraordinarily painful.

I had let myself and my old hobbies go, and I’d slowly begun rejecting a lot of what was still left of the old me. we would hate and love, it was not fun at all. There was no security. 

He told me incessantly that I was impossible to deal with, because i held grudges, I told him to grow balls and take care of the family. We made the points clear. A year after my ex husband was gone we tried to work it back out but it ended bad again. 

By then I was strong and independent, with a  great job, lots of dreams, friends, and a strong backbone in relationships. I had spent that time away processing how I had lost myself before, and I was determined to never go through that again.

But then the best thing happened: I  started to feel these feelings for somebody, that I had never felt before. Real LOVE. the one that takes time to develop, the true unconditional LOVE  *im crying while writing this.*

I didn’t just love the idea of (i'll call him Hero) Hero or the companionship of being together, but I adored the person that he was. Hero enjoyed the person that I was. And as I fell in love with him, they were feelings that were brand new. They were feelings of belonging, safety, passion and companionship—and they didn’t have an ounce of underlying fear. I realized that for the first time in my entire life, I was really falling in love with the right person. 

Honestly though I was putting in damage, that I didn't mean to do, i just felt that if there was a little of my ex husband in a man that im dealing with I needed to let them know they are not gonna take me back down that road of control again. Leaving me to, and i'll admit, act difficult. I say difficult i mean personally i have a issue with assuming, i observe and assume the actions and the thoughts of others without ever knowing you. That is not good because i have been proven Stupid at times . Also it would lead me to solve solutions in my head without considering my limitations or considering other people feelings. The naive trust that I had so long ago got used up and beaten up by the wrong person. so I would give unnecessary obstacles to the person that i truly cared for, and Hero does not deserve it. Now I know that real relationships should be a calm sea & only cause a wave if your new and trying to know what boundaries to cross and those little waves can easily settle down to calm.  When I was with my ex husband I lost myself and had to force myself to be someone that I wasn't use to.  I just want my future Hero to know that I am a unconditional lover you will know who i really am and what I can do  But unlike that wrong person, the MAN that Hero that will  be with me, will protect everything: my happiness(family), our life together.

So if there’s one thing that I learned the hard way in all of this, it’s this:

You can't love with your mind. You have to love with your heart and soul.

Also

The hardest thing in life is choosing to walk away or to try harder.

SuperYOU: Being strong when you're feeling weak

Hello there,
For those that are reading this post, thank you for visiting.  I'm always posting on Facebook and Instagram. So for those that click and read thank you so much.
Ok let's get in the subject of this post.

Being strong when you're feeling weak. 

Becoming mentally and emotionally strong isn't something that happens overnight.  When life has more downs then ups you feel like  a wreck, like you feel depressed or feel like quitting or just filling up your gas tank and driving off to another world where no one can find you. Those feelings are so real, but sadly if you don't have that full tank gas or can't leave your place for too long. You're stuck thinking of any ugly thoughts about yourself and what you went through.

That feeling I know so well. In the past I was a working mom and now since I had my second child the work world has gotten difficult to get back into. Not that I don't want to work, it's just hard to get a job. Year by year employers want AA degree, bilingual, etc. so much requirements and experience that it gets pretty bad. 

Which leads me to the subject feeling weak. I personally feel weak when I can't provide as much for me and my kids, or personal relationships get "IFFY" during my trials, or someone that was once your strength is no longer there with you. We learn in life to be strong but, there are so much obstacles in life that can make people feel weak in the cruel world.

*side note I hate people that are iffy. You are either in or out. Don't waste time. Time is more precious then other people's IFFY thoughts. IFFY means to be undecided not sure of the outcome. Causing some people to stray when they see bad and come around when they see good*

I'm the person who hates feeling weak and will quickly put myself in a situation that I can control and leave the reality until I can handle it. 

If you are like that. We best know that that isn't the route to go. I have found a method that makes me feel strong. 

1. Don't hide from the truth.  If you're going to overcome an obstacle, you need to be able to take it head on. It's hard but it's better then lying to yourself about what's going on  and trying to escape it. That my friend will only end up hurting you in the end. Be honest with yourself about your flaws.
2. Find someone who needs you. Being weak means feeling useless. But when someone calls out for you because they know your perfect for (e.g. Solving their issues)  you don't feel useless. You're needed. Surround yourself with someone that is in greater need of you to be strong for them. It can be your kids, friend, maybe someone you will soon meet in life.  Just knowing someone wakes up thinking "wow what would (your name) do in this situation." And they call you up.  That person is yearning for your thoughts, your actions, you are their light to go to.

That makes me feel good personally. My kids are always my reason to be strong, but that isn't enough at times. You can know your worth but it doesn't mean anything when people are not giving in. Having that special person say "don't leave me." "Help me you are the only one." Can make anyone feel STRONG.  A special person understanding you and going through the trials with you can make you feel STRONG.

Remember you can not feel COMPLETELY STRONG unless you have that special person(s). You can only protect your front but with that special person(s)  you can both lookout for each others back and front.

I hope what I shared helps you all.
Have a great week!

                                   With love,
                                     Brittney

GIRLS!!! Losing your Man's TRUST

You got caught. Your man found you at the wrong place at the wrong time. You cheated on your man. You crumbled the clean creased TRUST paper? Whatever it is, your man is upset and he isn't planning on leaving you but he has lost total TRUST.  Girl.. Wipe your eyes, finish your wine and put some lipstick on, because you are about to rescue your  relationship. Losing your loved ones trust is a distress,  and trying to gain it back isn't fast at all or guaranteed a key back to them.  Even in that case, at least  you can say 'you tried'.  First thing is first:

1. You messed up, you have to ADMIT it.  Be honest with yourself. You took a clear piece of paper, grabbed it real quick and crumbled it.  Find the root of the problem ask yourself questions so you'll know if this relationship is worth saving. The one with the regret has to forgive herself if she wants to move past it.
2. There is no time machine. What happened, happened. But you can’t let yourselves get stuck in the past without sacrificing any happiness in your future. Trust has to be rebuilt but you have to agree to rebuild it together. No matter how many times he doesn't  answer your calls, leave a voicemail, text him. Never stop. He is watching your efforts.
3. Stay truthful. Call him when you say you will and be where say you will be. Be up front with your plans and communicate any changes as you go along. Keeping him in the loop will ease the stress in your relationship and make a stronger bond between you.
4. Don't do it again If you are honestly ashamed of your actions, and want nothing more than to earn back your loved ones trust and rebuild your relationship. Some people think giving him sex right off the back will work.. HELL NO, put your working boots on. This will require major changes in your life to convince your partner you’re serious about repairing the damage you’ve done.

Regardless of how much remorse you feel or how willing you are to change, once your man has seen your downfall and lost trust in you, you will endure a period of sneers and jeers. So be it. Girls you remember when your man was late coming home or didn't text you all day. His efforts to win you back did work, but you will always remember what he did wrong. So understand. Self-doubt may eat at you, but if you work hard and improve, the sneers and jeers will eventually stop. The betrayal will be forgotten by him and you will begin to notice that you aren't such a deadbeat after all. So again, wipe your tears away, don't pour anymore wine, reapply some lipstick and go rescue your relationship. Good luck <3

inspirational day

All bout being good to you. That old saying "be good to yourself so you can be good to others","Beauty is only skin deep." Those are true
So instead.of wondering what outfit and makeup to buy next, plan on an encouraging visit to a friend. When your going through lifes pain, make peace with it and be successful to get out of it. It all ends with you becoming better. Be thankful that you encourage yourself to be a stronger person everyday. take some insight you gained and help others get back up on their feet. Someone is gonna help you whether its  small or big the thought the action is what truly counts these days. Be a beautiful person inside and out. You're making other people smile.

#whenawomanloves

#whenawomanloves

What makes that MAN, so irresistible? The one that starts the fire in you that you once had.  How can you explain undeniable chemistry? When every bone in your body wants them. Attraction has the power to somehow block all your common sense but then that love chemistry opens up new common sense. With those two put together, you want what you want, and nothing is going to stop you. It becomes a compulsion that you physically can't control. Whatever has happened in the past no longer matters, all you can think about is "here and now" and future.

In many situations love is often confused with obsession. Wanting what you can no longer have, trying to re-live what you once had. You are simply incapable of controlling your behavior. All common sense becomes alive. This fire is growing in you. Making you into this welcoming woman. How is it possible that this certain man can do this? To you,"the no man will control me" woman. When there is something there you can't explain; how can you just make it go away? How do you let go of something that has such a strong grip in your life.

Even if you do part away, you never forget. You look to find that same chemistry with someone else. The truth is that you will never find the same chemistry, because it will never be him. I seen how two people can go their separate ways, have other relationships, get married, get divorced, have children, move away, etc still they never forget the person who started that fire in them. Years and years can go by, life changing incidences occur, and “that feeling” is still there. How can you explain that? What does it say about that person? Were they always "the one?" Or are you just repeatedly re-living the growing fire that he started.