morning thoughts: I GIVE THE BEST DAMN ADVICE, DONT FOLLOW ME

Oh, where do I even begin? Parents were born in a different era, with different rules, and under different economy; they had different expectations towards them and were raised by an earlier generation that values obedience, conformance and following rules.
All of that is about non-existent for the youth of today: they are independent, working, aspiring to be their own bosses (entrepreneurs), they live separately (finances allowing), and they have a say in their future. These persons also stand up for themselves more because their parents are not here to protect them all the time, and they don't even need their parents' advice because parents don't even know what to advise (the discrepancy of the worldviews and expectations is THAT great) for these generations. Who needs parents advice when you have Facebook quotes, and www.brittneyndlovu.blogspot.com to give you great advice... Oh me!? hahaha well I dont wanna burst my own bubble but... hahahah just kidding, I would ADVISE TO TAKE TIPS FROM ME NOT FULL BLOWN ADVICE. ^_^

The new generation relationships are up to people - either to sustain or to break off. Since today's youth is more concerned with their self-respect and well-being - unlike the parents' generation which was leaning towards of more what will others think and how it will look - younger generation is less determined to put up with unhappiness and negativity.
I would put it as a plus - if you don't look after your own interests, no one will.

And me, well me I am in between with leaning more to old school, and being ok with independence.To me a soul mate consists of honesty, loyalty, communication. unconditional love, forgetfulness of the past, willing to be best friends, the ability to understand and respect one another’s feelings, the ability to give your mate alone time so they can do soul searching, the needing to be together, sharing of dreams and goals, ability to forgive, ability to agree to disagree, and most of all have the same faith or shit compromise.  I think with all these concepts you have a pretty good couple.  I listed these because this what i carry in my mind my lifestyle my heart.  Not what a 10 year study shows or anything like that.  This is true life down the brass tax honesty at work.  You take away one of those concepts and you have to compromise with one of the other ones.   Everyone is different too.  Some people need more of one thing more than the other one does.  You have to keep that in mind. 

So let me get off the soap opera box and end this post with a few songs 
ANY SONG FROM DWELE  (his music brings light to my day) and Jeremih-planes(love the beat)

SuperYOU: What you need to look for in a partner(Sunday Recap)

(Nobody said being in a relationship was going to be easy, but its up to you find out if its going to be worth it and if that is a long thought process, then they ARE probably worth it)

-BRITTNEY NDLOVU

I hope you can relate:

I can not stress this enough to myself . I am at an age where I  need a man that is striving for excellence in every aspect of his life.  I need someone who can give me a mental stimulation, a conversation. A man that is family oriented, now wait!  Any  person can love a family and be around them, but it takes a man who can be a leader, a provider and a giver for the lives entrusted to him. I don't have a problem being submissive to a respectable man. key word respectable. I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman but is strong enough to keep in dealing with me and the relationship. What can you do for me that I can't do for myself? I have to ask that to  every guy that comes my way. If you are not fitting that description of what I need  and you are here for the sex, money and blow weed while broke then please go and in time MAYBE you will have what I need. Until then I'm growing my self and my household.  I need a man who has built a valued home by his self  (e.g. you had a family once, OK so now you're divorced and that's fine,  long term relationship OK now you guys are not together that's fine you were a amateur business man and you're first business went down the drain OK  again that's fine. Did you learn your lesson? are you improving are you going to continue on your blue print? of course there are more details into this but i wont get into it because its a lot to consider)  and is now building an empire, well most empires wasn't built alone so of course it will be us building together. My life doesn't call for party, procrastination, empty friendships or prideful people that think they are too good for people, you know who you are the ones that never see or admit their wrong doings or selfish pride, but quick to call people on their bluff and drop them. I don't have time for men like that. I'm not about perfection .Realistic, loyal, patient but DRIVEN wins the race. I'm not looking for this man, he will find me. And when I say empire I mean this

Future

Family

A Home

Marriage

I've been dreaming of this empire for years and it took me awhile to finally understand the blue print. Now im on track, I'm building an empire for my household and if a man wants to join in then that's better but if not, then its all good. Empires have been built alone too. My goals will be accomplished with or without you. period.

Im gonna show my kids everything in life is possible.

LIFE GOES ON WITH OR WITHOUT YOU <3

That's what I had to learn, the 3 c's and that is to be Confident, Comfortable and Caring. To know that I may always be too much of something for someone, doesn't bother me anymore. I love me and I love to care and to round out my edges, to lose my uniqueness that could be beneficial to someone else  or make me feel less then who I was.. Is out of the question.  And if they care and love me then they should also benefit. Right?! It should be this in and out effect: I got no candy you fill it up to the best you can and vice versa. No one is left out! I know letting go of  a relationship  can bring in the rainy clouds and countless Resses butter cups, :whisper voice:I will not say how many i have had. lol. Seriously though its really sad, but as a couple, if you are not doing the 3C's together , being Confident in each other, Comfortable with each other, or Caring for each other then <3 peace , love and chicken grease. If we return back its probably because we thought hard and said NO MORE BS , LETS CLIMB TO THE TOP TOGETHER. If not then its okay there are many people out there who love your uniqueness and how you deal out of problems and how you have fun and keep smiling through the wars and success! If they love what they see then they will stay by your side. It takes time to build this relationship and its worth it. Until then the days were good<3

With Love,

Brittney

Men you take so much in, let the woman hold your hand and guide you back to the top. 

Just to guide not to take over you.