Know how to keep positive

Hey everyone! I hope your year is getting good, and that you're feeling amazing!
On my end my year started off bad but everyday I pray, meditate, and keep positive!
I'm just gonna drop this positive writing  to uplift anyone that is going through a bad time, or day. Keep your head up and know its never a failure, always a lesson!
I actually have that tattooed on my shoulder.  See you all next time!

SUPERYOU: KEEPING STRONG WHEN YOURE LEFT BEHIND

(when  im taking a break from you it most likely means i found someone and when that relatiosnhip ends im gonna find you and check up on you and see if you changed.) 

- BRITTNEY NDLOVU

I hate breaks..I HATE BREAKS.. they hurt. and the qoute above me is how 95% of people take relationship breaks.

1. Breaks are one word away from "up".
2. Its like playing Patty Cake without the cake part or baking part. You try singing it that way and tell me how that feels!... I will wait for it... EXACTLY.
3. Isn't the reason for a break is so that you can focus on the bad side of the person? Am I right or wrong? So why be with someone that only wants to focus on your bad?

I could never do that, you would have to really put it out there to me that you REALLY want to stay in the over crowded bottom(You basically put it out there you don't give a flying a duck about me). Until then im focusing on your GOOD.

(THIS IS IMPORTANT)

So when this break(up) does happen you, have to go through the usual rules of: the don’t call, the don't text, and especially do not send emails, because if you do your gonna get back a  response from the other side saying, "I miss you too but we need this", AND that response you NEVER  feed into it. Its fake and they don't mean it and it'll leave you in unnecessary hopes, or you don't get a response at all. You are only belittling yourself. As hurt as you are, and as painful as the situation seems, you also must walk away to regroup. Step outside of yourself to see the situation for what it is. Hey that person may have just done you the biggest favor.

Wait a minute though, let me really think on this, maybe, if I actually sit down and deep think what a break(up) can do then maybe its not as bad as I thought it was.
   I have been the one left behind, so I can say:

• It is true it is a good thing to take a break away from relationships. It can help you to gain back what you once lost and that can mean your priorities, standards, something that you changed in yourself while with them.
•  Sometimes a good bye is the best form of tough love, and in the end you may have opened a new door to a better relationship down the road with your partner. If it was meant to be it will be, but you must walk away first to find out.(scary)
•  I guess I have to Remember, distance makes the heart grow fonder. It may be the best remedy to rekindle a love that was once dismal, or it may make you both stronger, wiser, healthier people.
• Or open a door to a new love. 

Remember that song by Janet Jackson-Lets wait awhile "You cant rush Love"

"Sometimes closing the door on the past and walking away from the present is the only way to get to the future."- Brittney Ndlovu

Honest truth,

Maybe I care too much, but I am not ashamed to say "I need you." I will announce it, if you change me in a great way I'll say " I need you" and saying the word "need" in this world, is saying you are weak.. Im not saying that im weak If I tell you i need you, do not take it lightly. I do everything I can to never have to depend on anyone, to never show weakness, and if I say that i need you, it means I am trusting you to catch me when I fall. im simply stating you are so good in my life that I would need you in certain parts of my life. Not All. You have something that I cherish and would love to have around me. I need it. I love feeling needed," I am human and i need to be loved(The Smiths)." I would feel hurt if my friends said they are appreicative and thankful that im here but to say that they NEED me (because they dont want to sound weak or be seen weak) is BS. Then why did you choose me to be with you. Somehow you thought in your mind "Omg she is what i need, because she brings a certain essential to my life. Lets be friends to the end." im not gonna change, this world is too heartless. If my caring words make me look weak, then I feel sad for you,  I know who I am.

with love,

BRITTNEY NDLOVU

morning thoughts: I GIVE THE BEST DAMN ADVICE, DONT FOLLOW ME

Oh, where do I even begin? Parents were born in a different era, with different rules, and under different economy; they had different expectations towards them and were raised by an earlier generation that values obedience, conformance and following rules.
All of that is about non-existent for the youth of today: they are independent, working, aspiring to be their own bosses (entrepreneurs), they live separately (finances allowing), and they have a say in their future. These persons also stand up for themselves more because their parents are not here to protect them all the time, and they don't even need their parents' advice because parents don't even know what to advise (the discrepancy of the worldviews and expectations is THAT great) for these generations. Who needs parents advice when you have Facebook quotes, and www.brittneyndlovu.blogspot.com to give you great advice... Oh me!? hahaha well I dont wanna burst my own bubble but... hahahah just kidding, I would ADVISE TO TAKE TIPS FROM ME NOT FULL BLOWN ADVICE. ^_^

The new generation relationships are up to people - either to sustain or to break off. Since today's youth is more concerned with their self-respect and well-being - unlike the parents' generation which was leaning towards of more what will others think and how it will look - younger generation is less determined to put up with unhappiness and negativity.
I would put it as a plus - if you don't look after your own interests, no one will.

And me, well me I am in between with leaning more to old school, and being ok with independence.To me a soul mate consists of honesty, loyalty, communication. unconditional love, forgetfulness of the past, willing to be best friends, the ability to understand and respect one another’s feelings, the ability to give your mate alone time so they can do soul searching, the needing to be together, sharing of dreams and goals, ability to forgive, ability to agree to disagree, and most of all have the same faith or shit compromise.  I think with all these concepts you have a pretty good couple.  I listed these because this what i carry in my mind my lifestyle my heart.  Not what a 10 year study shows or anything like that.  This is true life down the brass tax honesty at work.  You take away one of those concepts and you have to compromise with one of the other ones.   Everyone is different too.  Some people need more of one thing more than the other one does.  You have to keep that in mind. 

So let me get off the soap opera box and end this post with a few songs 
ANY SONG FROM DWELE  (his music brings light to my day) and Jeremih-planes(love the beat)