So there is this guy this man that you are just all over you think of him day and night and even though you had your encounters with him; You try o go an extra step, by hinting about going out to eat and he dodges your efforts and when you talk it ends with him saying you're a good person but um I'm just not ready to feel the relationship.
It's not looking good… your guy is exhibiting all the signs that he doesn't like you in that kind of way. Sure, he may be attracted to you and he may enjoy your company, but it doesn't seem like he's invested in a real way.
You can't shove a square peg into a round hole and you can't force or manipulate a man into wanting to be with you. If he doesn't want a relationship, you have to believe him.
You may think that if you spend more time with him you'll show him how amazing you are and he'll come around but he won't. Don't get caught in a web of your own delusions and wishful thinking, you'll just end up wasting valuable time and energy that would be better directed toward finding a guy who does care about you in the way you want.
Listen, though, because this part is the most important: This is not a loss for you. You can breathe a sigh of relief knowing that you can look at this clearly, close the book on this guy and move on to a new guy that will be a better fit. Look at this as an opportunity to be excited and inspired - clarity sets the stage for you to finally free yourself from worrying, wondering and questioning... and start on a new path that will bring you the love you really want(and deserve)
a lot of women (including me) don't give men the opportunity to bring their A game. The women see the slightest glimmer of a chance for a relationship and they shut down all other options.They delete their Match profile, they tell all other potential guys that they're seeing someone, etc. And the new guy can feel that there's no competition - he's won and there's no need to bring his A-game for his victorious claiming of you as his prize.
I know its hard I know you wanna dream of possibilities of him and you being great lovers and friends or take your heart out and show him how fast it beats when you hear his voice or when he is.touching you, but you gotta respect your heart and self worth. Love and know the definition of love.
And another thing Dont hate him for NOT accepting what you wanted, he told you from the beginning he wanted nothing serious respect him! and Dont hate yourself for giving your all to a guy that didn't want to claim you. Be happy you Gave yourself a great exercise of what you can handle in a relationship. Appreciate what lesson he gave you. And it may take a while too look at it that way but you'll be a better person when you do.
Listening Brian Mcknight-Stay or Let it go _ album:Back at one
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