Time is a healer, but by its self.. it takes deep work also to fix any situation.- BRITTNEY NDLOVU(2015)
, you first need to trust yourself — your inner knowledge of what's right and wrong for you. We have all been blessed with two sources of knowing — our feelings and the wisdom that pops into our mind from our higher guidance. When you learn to trust your feelings about your partner and learn to trust the wisdom that is always here for you, then you become truly trustworthy of yourself. This means that you stop ignoring that inner whisper and start listening to what you know in your heart and soul.
Then and only then will you be able to discern what is true and what isn't about your partner and the relationship. With self-trust, you will be able to feel — and believe — when he or she is lying or trying to take advantage of you in a way that erodes trust.When you make a commitment to treat yourself with love and compassion and authentically trust your needs, you will not harm yourself or your partner by lying or cheating. You will listen properly to yourself.
- SOME WEBSITE (2015)
Brittney's thoughts
I believe that Broken trust can definitely be healed, but it takes deep work. Alot of time. Alot of it. Don't kid yourself into thinking that you can repair broken trust with a quick statement of forgiveness and a warm embrace. I wasn't easy to forget and forgive a lie and im learning now that no one else that i will deal with in the future will be either. I am just learning that lying to someone means betrayal.. it means you didnt love yourself or the person for that moment . Its a selfish act. I never knew that, so lying goes more deeper. The person that is telling the lie, either can not handle the truth, or can not handle the reaction they believe will come
from the truth. People don't lie in order to hurt someone else's feelings. A person lies for a
selfish reason. Im accepting how a lie can just kill it all no matter how big or small. People can take a little lie to the extreme and blow all family or romantic relationship history off.
I ask myself why people are not understanding to situations, whether it was a little lie or even a big lie, if you can understand and work harder at maintaining your love for them then do it its better then walking away. Now I get it.. I understand , If the lie is continuously or if you really cant get over the lost of trust/lie then yeah its better to just leave it alone for GOOD.
I am comfortable to say now that I rather be alone then stand with people i cant trust.
Remember, guys: If you can’t turn your back on her and be safe, what good is she?
Same for girls- BRITTNEY NDLOVU(2015)
BRITTNEY'S FEELINGS
Thats were the betrayal comes in. WOW as im writing this im having goose
bumps its so real to me now, my brain is accepting this moment. I have to consider that there are people out there that have trust issues like me but they are more guarded unlike them i'm so positive and understanding.THEIR words hurt us, because, we have given them our hearts. Once someone has our heart, words and actions, can crush us.
When you are lied to by someone, the person telling you the lie just does not understand is that while they might be lying to keep from hurting you, finding out that they lied hurts far worse than whatever small truth there ever was. You might think the person will be angry with you for lying, but their anger for you about lying to them is minuscule compared to the anger they turn on themselves.
I remember when i was lied to ( i try to forget it ) but it comes back to me and i feel this burning hurt in my heart and my brain is rambling with thoughts.
When I was lied to by someone i cared about truly cared about it made me feel unworthy of the truth.
Holy crap! I fell for it again!
How stupid am I?
It makes me feel disrespected.
It makes me feel untrustworthy.
It sends a clear message to me that you don’t care about me
Knowing this, was your lie worth it?
Now it means that a relationship I counted on and believed in, was a lie.
That makes me feel very alone.
Just tell me why you did it.
Tell me that I really am your friend and you are sorry you did it.
I Promise myself
I will trust in myself and other people, one day at a time. I will repair the damage down to my foundation, one day at a time. One day at a time is about all I can manage because restoring faith in people can be an overwhelming task, just by itself. Rebuilding the amount of damage that I have allowed to take place is not something I can ever do all at one time, if at all.
I hate reminding myself of all the shit and pain i went through with relationships and friends and family but i have to face it and do deep work. because time only healed me to not think of it anymore.
THE DEVILS ADVOCATE
Am i playing the devil's advocate here: In the same regards, words can only hurt us as much as we allow them to. Words alone hold zero power. Words only hold the power that we give them. Learning when to give words power, and when to take away that power, is a true talent.
What if I advise that people not give power to words. In other words, be less sensitive when receiving words from others. On the other hand, we should be sensitive to others when we deliver words.
Problem is, we can't control how another person delivers their words, but we am control how we receive them. Thus, why I suggest being less sensitive when receiving words of others.
We only need to control one person, and luckily that person is the only person we are able to control; ourself.
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This does offer a different perspective. I do agree with my top post that is not in blue. Lying is betrayal. you have to always think is what they are saying to me truth? and you don't want that shit. after discovering this about lies, i'm getting goosebumps and memories are recurring back. good thing i wrote somethings ahead of time because after acknowledging the hurt from lying and being lied to, im taking a break for a while.
This song will keep me happy for now.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2VtCUg9Yx78
Dwele-Open your eyes
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