As a young mom of 2, my daughter being of only 4 in a half years young, there are times when my little girl will stress out usually if I step out of the routines or she's just having a moment. You can tell in her voice, for example: khlo'e will notice my driving patterns when I take her to school. If I make a different turn she will turn into miss little-not-even-there-yet-teenager and try to convince me to make the usual turns and then she will rub her head saying "We are never going to make it." Yes moms and dads my face is always that wide eye open mouth look, like what could you possibly be stressing about??!!! But I'm always told "how your child acts now is a clip of their teenage." So of course I want to nip it in the butt. My goal is to have her securely know mommy is understanding and willing to help. I mean don't all parents want their kids to know that. As they are growing, especially girls, people are not nice in the world and the last thing you want is your child getting bullied or overly angry because no one understands her. I don't want my little girl stressing and if you're reading this I'm sure you're feeling the same way. So I'm here to give the tips I took and did with my daughter to achieve the goal. It's a everyday task and its not easy. But as parents we will make it easy. (If you're a dad I have a special message for you at the end of this post :) )
WHY it HAPPENS
Physical changes. The growth spurt of puberty can cause a girl considerable anxiety, in my genes we are fast growth so I understand from my childhood how physical change can be stressful especially in front of the peers in school. As mom n dad you want to express a lot of love and peace at home.
Emotional changes. One minute your kid (teenager too!) is all giggly and loud and the next very reserved and quiet. So go with the flow don't try to make them feel that their change is not good but have them feel that it's accepted, and that no matter what you stay the same as mom n dad.
WHAT YOU CAN DO
Encourage your daughter to talk about her stress. At first, she may be reluctant to talk. But be patient and listen. I like to listen to my daughter and try my hardest to put myself in her little shoes ( forgive me if I say little too much. My girl is really little that it's adorable)
Take your daughter’s stresses seriously. Remember, she does not have your experience in life, and therefore she has little with which to compare her stresses—much less develop the skills to address them.
Make sure your daughter gets enough rest. Sleep is often the first thing little kids & teenagers neglect. Without it, however, your daughter’s thinking skills will be weakened and so will her ability to ward off stress.
Help your daughter find healthy outlets for stress. For some girls, exercise reduces anxiety. “Physical training is beneficial,” like writing, playing tether ball( I loved that game)
Set the example. Exactly. Life is 10 percent of what happens,and 90 percent how you react to it.
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For dads that are either busy working or living away from their beautiful daughters, try to be there for your daughter, either through Skype phone or text. Girls love it when their dads keep a positive attitude. Like when a problem arises say "how can we fix this?" Show them that you're not perfect but you won't let a problem defeat you. Be a good role model for the young girls. We go through SO MUCH life changes as females, speaking for the teenage girls and younger ones, that to have a dad stay positive all the way through it all, is the best SUPERMAN act you can do. Remember SoS (read my previous blog of superman if you don't get my SoS vibe)
I hope this was helpful I'm taking it in everyday, because I want love to be known around my kids.
Good luck :)
Brittney <3
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