SELF LOVE ANTHEM *update*

KNOW   ONE   CAN   HURT   YOU, WITHOUT   YOUR PERMISSION
(I know we are all grown and know this but there is nothing wrong with reminders and new perspectives =])

I have been in toxic relationships, the " bird worm" relationships,also i have been in relationships were the person would juge themselves as superior, extraordinary or the "i watch myself before i say and act all the time" (which is impossible as a imperfect human) so they would  push you to a "horrible person" category  if you were late for a date or you slipped up on your words, without ever considering the path you have walked, your history.
  I promise myself to not waste my energy my valued beating heart on things that i can not change and to walk away from toxic people and hopeless situations.
I use to care what others thought  about me. now im at this stage in my life where depending on the situation  i wont give a slight lean or thought to other peoples opinions. like in relationships an friendships, i know what i want i know what i need i know what i deserve and if im not getting it then im okay with walking away for good without thinking will there be a second chance with us.
 i promise myself to not beat myself up for mistakes and to be forgiving. i use to really be hard on myself and some times i still am but not as bad. i can really look deep and really understand where i was coming from if its faulty or not and be forgiving of it.
I promise my self to not take nasty things that people say personally and refuse to give their words credence. like if someone calls me untrustworthy or no good,  they would really have to pin me on some really dirty stuff to call me that because im very loving and i have and can sacrifice and worry, loyal to a person i really wear my heart on my sleeves. if i am ever called that its probably because i didnt bend to their desire because it was stepping on my
boundaries and those people are ignorant selfish bums, and i never deal with them.
I promise myself to change my responses to loving responses like If someone comments negatively about my body, tell them I’d appreciate their keeping those kind of comments to themselves and affirm to myself, “I love and accept myself as I am.” Responding from a place of self-love instead of feeling deeply wounded takes some of the sting out of their words
I promise myself  to be my own best friend, once the relationship is gone and the friendship is broken you only have yourself comfort and give yourself reassurance when your going through things. speak to yourself as if your friend is going through it. made a mistake? give love comfort and real talk to yourself but never put yourself down and laugh at yourself from times. 
I promise myself to not take social media seriously. In the beginning of times of me starting out in social media i use to take all the pics people made and did and their words seriously.  dont ever do that i was young in high school. now that im way older i am seeing that im HAPPY AT WHO I AM AND WHAT I HAVE BECOME!Don’t focus on what you’re not. Pay attention to the beautiful person you are.  TMZ  and other social sites can make a person feel bad abou their image, like now is the big booty era every one needs and wants it  lol . I'm sorry but its funny and sad, its you comparing yourself to others which will block self-love since you can always find someone who makes you fall short and feel like you’re lacking. What you’re not doesn’t make you what you are. Instead of looking for what’s wrong with you, find your good qualities and appreciate them. Let them define you, instead of what you don’t have.

Not being thin doesn’t mean you’re fat! Not being the smartest in your class doesn’t make you dumb.

I promise TO PAMPER MYSELF, i have to spend at least $100.00 on myself if not a little bit more,  of course my kids are taken care of first in fact  my kids got more style  and coolness then i do. im so boring next to my kids they are so awesome and cool and im just there. lol  but we compliment each other, anyways im rambling.  Pampering yourself doesnt mean just splurging on an a massage or nails or hair it can also mean going on trips. im going to New York soon and San Francisco and im going on a cruise, I am making it happen, because i love myself and i thought right with my money. i have been working out  thats also pampering yourself.

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